If you feel like you’re reeling from work, working with a mentor can get you back on track and moving forward. Use these tips to find the one that’s right for you.
August 8, 2018
6 minutes of reading
Comments expressed by Businessmen the contributors are their own.
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When I have a speech in New Orleans, a teenager named Ben Shapiro was present in the audience. I met Ben again while I was traveling the country on a lecture tour and got the chance to watch him lead a youth workshop at a youth conference. I was blown away by his creativity and knew that he would be successful no matter what he did in life.
A year later, he contacted me and asked if I was looking for a trainee. He lived in Angles and I stayed New York CitySo I told him I would guide him through phone call and email, but other than that, I didn’t have much to offer him at the time. For months, Ben emailed me asking if he could work on my YouTube channel if he flew to New York over the summer. He’s so stubborn that I feel bad saying no. His mother said she would rent an apartment in New York for the summer so that Ben would have a place to stay. He took classes a few days a week and worked with me on others. Ben is a good example of staying in touch with someone you have met and not accepting a response.
If you are asking someone you do not know to be your mentor, make sure that you are very clear, clear, about why you are contacting them. Explain your place in life, mention how you are looking for a mentor, and state why they will be a great mentor for you. This is an abbreviated version of what a young woman named Gabi Golenberg sent me by surprise.
My name is Gabi, 15 years old and live in Los Angeles. Through online research like I am looking for mentor With whom I could seek advice on an internship, I came across your inspirational work with both your business skills and your participation in Jewish organizations. Those are the two things that have been my passions and hobbies all my life. A lot of your work in many different fields is something I would love to strive for in the future and I really admire your accomplishments. It would be an honor and a great opportunity to have a chance to talk to you at some point because your work reflects my passion. I hope to hear from you soon.
Thank you very much for your time.
All the best,
At that time Gabi sent me this emailI have no plans in Los Angeles. I explained to Gabi that my job is currently in New York, but I would be happy to talk to her on the phone and note her about future projects. We should have scheduled a call, but I was busy with speeches and coverage of New York Fashion Week and dropping the ball.
Fast forward four months. I started traveling back and forth between New York and Los Angeles, and on a trip to California, I was delighted to meet Gabi for coffee. She is even more impressive in man. We made a game planner for me to mentor her during her junior year and identified my projects she wanted to help with.
Have an attitude gratitude
After your first call or email to your potential mentor, thank that person and share what you gained from the conversation. Once they’ve signed up to be your mentor, don’t attack them with emails, calls and texts. Please respect your mentor’s time. If you send an email and your counselor doesn’t respond right away, don’t find the email and hit “Forward” to make sure you’ve sent it back. And don’t email with just one question in the subject and nothing in the text like this: “Subject: Tony, have you received my message? THNX. “
Sudden messages like this make you seem disconnected from reality: Tony has responsibilities other than being your mentor. So, think carefully before hitting send.
Here are some other tips to follow to ensure your relationship with your mentor is positive:
- Meet your mentor. Once you’ve made a time to meet them, be clear about what you hope to get from having a mentor. Are you looking for guidance? To hide them in their work? Make sure your expectations are consistent so that there are no misinformation.
- Mentor / mentor relationship. Premise how this will work soon. For starters, how should you get in touch if you need their advice? Does your mentor like calling, FaceTime or email? Do they mind if you text something urgent?
- Plan ahead. You will also want to find out how often they can meet. Never leave a meeting without scheduling your next one. Your job (not your mentor) is to keep advice survive.
- The next question. If you have developed a relationship with your mentor over time, you can ask them to write a letter of recommendation for you or as a reference for you if you are applying for an internship or job application. The advisor is the connector. Your mentor may also be willing to refer you.
- Keep contact. A mentor / mentor relationship can turn into a lifelong friendship. Don’t just do this about you and post updates about your life. Send your counselor a note from time to time to check. Congratulate them when you get good news about their personal lives (maybe their kids have gone to college) or when you see updates about their company. Send a holiday or birthday greeting card when appropriate. Not only does that show that you are thoughtful, but also never know when they might have a position that works best for you and that you won’t be harmed if you stay on their mind.
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