Understanding the five components of EQ can set you on the path to being a better leader and get your company right where you want it to be.
September 30, 2019
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Emotional intelligenceEmotional Index (EQ) inventory, as measured in inventory, includes five categories, each with three subcategories as shown below:
- Self-respect: Respect yourself; have confidence
- Self-realization: Pursuing meaning, self-improvement
- Emotional Self-Awareness: Understand your own emotions
- Emotional expression: Can express emotions in a constructive way
- Assertive: Communicate feelings and beliefs in a non-offensive way
- Independence: Self-control, not dependent on emotions
3. Between individuals
- Interpersonal relationship: Can maintain mutually satisfying relationships
- Empathetic: The quality of understanding, appreciating other people’s feelings
- Social responsibility: Developing a social conscience, helping the larger community
- Problem solving: The ability to find a solution when you have feelings
- Reality check: Objective ability; look at things as they really are
- Pulse control: The ability to resist or delay impulse to action
5. Stress management
- Flexibility: Adjust emotions, thoughts, and behavior
- Endure stress: Coping with stressful situations
- Optimistic: Maintain a positive attitude and outlook on life
Let’s break down each of these factors so you can start applying them to your company.
How you perceive yourself – your self-awareness – colors your interactions with the rest of the world. Self-esteem creates the first sub-category. The confidence and respect you have in yourself will influence your decisions and communication with others. Self-realizationThe second, subcategory, involves your pursuit of meaning and self-improvement. If you fully realize yourself, you have become the “biggest” version of yourself – someone who completely lives up to what you consider your purpose in life to be. The third sub-category is emotional self-awareness. Realizing your feelings is not letting go – it’s essential to a healthy and happy life. Emotional repressed manifestations such as illness, disagreement with others, constant anxiety and a host of other unpleasant symptoms interfere with your ability to live and work at the level you want.
Your self-awareness – your selfelf expression – affects the way you present yourself. The first part of this is emotional expression. Once you become aware of your feelings (as noted in Self-awareness category) you must be able to show them off. Healthy people can express their feelings and take responsibility for them without blaming others. Assertiveness makes up the second part of self-expression: Can you convey your feelings and beliefs in a way that won’t harm others but still respect your wants and needs? And the final ingredient is Independence. If you are independent, you can direct yourself and not be dependent on the emotions of others. You maintain stability regardless of the prevailing mood or opinion around you and you do not request confirmation from others.
The between individuals categories refer to how you interact with others. Relationship between individuals refers to how you can tailor your ability to develop and adapt to all relationships from the significant people in your life to the way you influence others. The second sub-category is empathyThat means how much you can understand and appreciate the feelings of others. Without empathy, you cannot form a satisfying interpersonal relationship. Next is social responsibility. This builds on the previous two concepts: If you have positive, empathic relationships with other individuals, you can try to help the larger community, both locally and globally.
Public science claims an average of 35,000 decisions a person makes per day. An emotionally intelligent person can make decisions with little inner turmoil. First sub-category of decision Was problem solving: Every time we make a decision, we have to deal with countless emotions to find a solution. By understanding our own emotional cycle, we can approach and improve our decision-making skills. The second type is Real test. If you have solid fact-checking skills, you can be objective and see situations that are true to their reality without getting caught up in fabricated stories, magical thinking, or worst-case scenarios. . The third sub-category is pulse control. In a people leader, the lack of impulse control
can seriously damage the morale of the organization. Let’s say a CEO is a new tech enthusiast, so he invests in the latest and greatest tools – every six months. Employees must continually learn and adapt, the victims of the boss’s “shiny object syndrome”. Conversely, a CEO with strong pulse control will carefully consider available technologies, choose the best option for his company, and stick with it.
We all have stressors in our lives, but we can choose how much they affect. Have you ever known someone flying off the handle even the slightest provocation – empty coffee, for example? Then there is a man who lives like him in the eye of the storm: The whole world may collapse around him, but he retains an almost unnatural calm.
Flexible, the first subcategory of stress management, refers to your ability to adapt to your thoughts and behavior in a given situation. That’s how you react and react in this moment. It’s about hundreds of course adjustments you make throughout the day to maintain emotional stability. Ability to endure stress includes how well you deal with stressful situations. Reflect honestly on yourself: Are you almost like a “storm-eyed” person or a “coffee pot freak”? Answers will give you insight into your stress tolerance level. The third sub-category is optimistic, or the degree to which you maintain a positive outlook on life. Optimism creates resilience. If you have a healthy basic level of fundamental optimism and you run into setbacks, you can be confident that everything will settle in time.
These five types of emotional intelligence serve as a useful metric for workplace leaders by helping them identify the source of stress or stress. When there are discomfort and stress, you can take them apart and see which parts of the EQ are under stress.
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